November 17, 2004

GET OVER YOUR FUCKING SELF

one of my absolute favorite things that people do is take offense to some "thing" one says (because, yaknow, one MUST have been trying to be offensive to this other person because, yaknow, that's what you DO to people in your life or in the life of the people you care about) and not having the balls / grace / maturity / ability to say, "what the fuck?" because it's not WORTH it to put it on the table. it feels ohsomuch better to hold on to it, like your own little private gift. oh it must feel so good to do that.

it must. cuz why the hell wouldn't you just say "what the fuck?" and allow the "offender" to say either "i can't stand your ugly, stupid person, and you god damned well deserved that and much, much more." or. "holy hell, man i'm really sorry. that DID sound like that! and i sure as hell didn't mean THAT! I'M REALLY, REALLY SORRY."

here's the deal: if i'm not happy and want to offend you, you'll goddamned know it. you won't have to wonder.

and if i think you've said or done something to offend ME, i'll do one of two things.

  • i'll say "what the fuck?" and we'll discuss it. you could then assume that i give a fuck. or --
  • i won't say a word. in which case, you can assume that i've thought it over and decided that you could NOT have meant offense. i will NOT hold onto it -- without having discussed it with you -- to "use" later. in other words, i will cease to have been offended. but you won't even ever notice that i've taken this second option -- all you'll know is that i will ALWAYS say "what the fuck?" when i'm upset. i don't ambush people.

    YOU CAN'T HAVE IT BOTH WAYS. EITHER IT'S WORTH YOUR UMBRAGE (AND THUS YOUR "WHAT THE FUCK?") OR IT'S NOT. FIGURE IT OUT.

    Posted by Stacey at November 17, 2004 02:05 AM
    • Comments

    Sigh. Don't get me going on this subject...

    Posted by: lucy at November 17, 2004 08:17 AM

    "here's the deal: if i'm not happy and want to offend you, you'll goddamned know it. you won't have to wonder."

    Amen to that sister!

    Posted by: Kathy Howe at November 17, 2004 09:28 AM

    Has someone rubbed you up the wrong way Stacey?

    Posted by: Anji at November 17, 2004 10:37 AM

    I love you.

    Posted by: Jen at November 17, 2004 05:23 PM

    wtf???

    ;-) I just had to. have a good day.

    Posted by: Keri at November 18, 2004 09:42 AM

    It's official. In my next life I am coming back as your daughter. Okay?

    Posted by: moonandsun03 at November 18, 2004 11:43 AM

    i can come back and have DAUGHTERS, too??? bring it on!

    Posted by: stacey at November 18, 2004 12:12 PM