January 22, 2004

HARD TRUTHS

a couple years ago, i called someone i considered a friend to alert her to a potentially dangerous situation in which her 17-year-old son was involved. we talked a long time, but it was the last time we spoke.

about a week ago, i came across an e-mail exchange from some time ago between me and a "friend."

i'm the kind of person who keeps e-mails, i-m's, cards. not for any kind of horrible reason -- for me, it's like a record of my life.

i asked this person some direct questions, the responses -- i now know -- were lies. i never thought about it until i reread the e-mails. i was crushed. i'm STILL crushed. i'm guessing she didn't feel comfortable being asked directly -- i wish she would have responded in that vein, rather than half-truths and non-truths.

it breaks my heart to think that friends should NEVER tell friends bad news. i can't live that way -- i just can't.

Posted by Stacey at January 22, 2004 09:42 PM
Comments

Yes, I know how you feel. I've had such an experience but in the end, I decided that she could not have been a friend to start off with - just merely an acquantance

Posted by: Michelle at January 23, 2004 07:58 AM

We've got a neighbour who always agrees with everything you say, I feel sorry for her, how does she remember who thinks what?

Posted by: Anji at January 23, 2004 08:19 AM

I find people like that taxing. What should I say? What can I say? How should I say? Why should I set myself up to be the liar?

Posted by: Charlene at January 23, 2004 11:40 AM