edited: ok. i added links. heh.
i think today's the day to write about the state of the blogosphere. as it relates to me. in my humble (shut up) opinion.
wow. hard to evaluate. lucy and jen wrote about it very nicely. i'll write "staceyly." i'm two people (not really - not clinically - just for the purpose of explanation here). one person you know. the blunt, mouthy, sometimes foul, opinionated, emotional, passionate about those i love, mom, wife, friend, person. i'm all of those (on the one hand) and another you might not have seen (on the other hand). i'm also very private. shocked? maybe some of you are. i know some of you aren't. i'm very protective of some of my thoughts and feelings, and i don't think that's unusual. it doesn't change what you see (read) here. i don't fake anything - i just don't share everything. i'm pretty sure that's the rule here in blogworld, maybe in all of human civilization, not the exception. it's not personal (heh - funny word to use here in my open blog). it just is what it is.
i was e-mailing with jen this morning and trying to express my thoughts about blogworld. my blogworld is pretty small. i'm pretty careful about the circles with which i choose to get involved. it takes me a while to enter a blog with both feet. i read for usually a couple months, and then, if i'm comfortable...
i don't want to overstate the obvious, and i hope this doesn't come off as snooty, but some circles are nicer than others. i'm having a very hard time with my words here, but i persevere. just for you. cuz i'm like that. and you appreciate it, doncha?
i don't want to fight in blogworld. i'll stay away, thankyouverymuch, if the blog is itching for a fight. you know: mean, mean, mean, and stupid. i don't do mean, and i don't do stupid. i won't do it at mean-stupidblog.com, and i won't tolerate it here. i've said it before: it's a big world wide web. if you don't like it here, i couldn't care any less than i do. i like my little circle of friends here and am happy to make new ones, but...
understood?
i have made some people that i really, really do consider friends. hard not to know a person from reading their blogs, for the most part. i'm sure you guys know some things about me that my "real" (as opposed to "virtual") friends don't. maybe even my sisters. and my bloggy friends and i e-mail each other, sometimes instant message each other, and have developed close relationships. it's cool.
wow, this is trite. and obvious. and most probably boring.
i've met some of you in person, and have not changed my original opinions of those of you i have met. it's the weirdest feeling to realize you're talking to somebody and feel you've known them forever, and you just met them an hour ago. weird. and cool. i hope to meet more of you. i know i will.
so ... lucy and philip are getting married! i cannot believe how tickled i am by this news! two awesome, awesome bloggy friends, who, imho (shut up, i said!) are PERFECTLY matched. i said it a month ago! ask kathy! i did, too!
go send lucy some (christine, i'm stealing your word here) mojo. philip's conspicuously quiet. which bill understands perfectly. DUH.
Posted by Stacey at September 21, 2004 03:02 PMI agree...
- Dana
You should be a friggin matchmaker, Stacey.
Wasn't I sitting on your couch last month sipping a mocha when you said "YOU KNOW WHO WOULD BE PERFECT FOR EACHOTHER?"
Yeah...I think I was.
You said this very well...I know exactly what you mean. You and Billy are the 2nd and 3rd bloggers that I have ever met and after 'cyber-knowing' you for a rather long time (has it been two years yet?) I would say you are exactly as I imagined you to be: WONDERFUL!
Posted by: Kathy Howe at September 21, 2004 04:23 PMI met two bloggers this summer (in Washington, but Philip was not one of them) and was happy to know that I still liked them in real life, too.
I think my actual ring of bloggers is small; I have some links up that I don't click on very often. Maybe it's time to do something about that.
But I have been very lucky-- meanness and fights? Wow, I think I have been very very lucky in the blogosphere.
I understand Philip's silence too. Not that that will stop me from trying to get him to post about *something* for Pete's sake!
But I know what you mean about new blogs. Usually, I won't keep going to a new blog unless I have been "introduced"-- such as by a situation like this. I saw everyone posting at figpaste for months before I finally started reading Kathy, and then Dana and then Lucy and then you guys! But everything comes back to Philip, whom I read more than the person through whom I first found him.
It's funny, isn't it, how just in real life you gravitate to certain people and become friends, whereas with others you stay acquaintances and smile and nod at the grocery store. Some blogs and bloggers you just "click" with and others you read once and continue on your merry way.
I'll stop writing about this. I swear.
Posted by: Jen at September 21, 2004 11:22 PMYou have soul. I like that.
Posted by: philip at September 22, 2004 09:49 AM